I finally had to create a log of my actions and reward myself to get past some of the more challenging rules for me such as waiting for first contact, stopping contact with men that were clearly not suitable for me or interested in a relationship and not staying friends with men after they had rejected me.I think a lot of the challenge was due to me being in the rebound stage of my divorce so it has gotten easier to do The Rules as I have gotten past that phase.
This book really helped calm me down and gain confidence about my dating skills again.
While it was very hard for me to follow The Rules initially, each time I did not, I realized why The Rules were correct in creating a pleasee action in me that aligned with the recommendations from Mars and Venus on a Date.
The main useful concept for me was how to act when texting in the early stages of dating.
I was not much of a texter to start with when I started dating.
While it is true that the first stage of attraction for men is physical, I don’t feel that losing weight or getting plastic surgery is a good idea.