A study conducted by China Daily interviewed a cross-section of people to see if they said “I love you” to their parents. When it comes to marriage prospects, Asian guys take into consideration the advice of his parents.
Many people interviewed had never said those three words, and one 56-year old commenting “Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me.” Of course, even in an upbringing where being emotionally expressive is not encouraged, one can still learn how to communicate feelings despite the odds. Sure, an Asian guy will think bubble tea is a perfectly acceptable venue for a first date. Asian guys will almost always say “Yes” to dessert as a date spot. It’s more common for a Caucasian male to independently pursue his desires without asking for anyone else’s approval. Although Asian guys might take awhile to confess their undying love, but that’s only because they like to take it slow.
Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up.
It’s rare to hear traditional Asian parents say “I love you” to their children.
Having 3 failed relationships with Chinese men under my belt, I’m ready to return to the security I’ll find in the big hairy arms of a western man.